1. If a friend of mine had a "personality conflict" with a mutual acquaintance of ours with whom it was important for him toget along, I would:

A: Tell my friend that i felt he was partially responsible for any problems with this person and try to let him know how the person was being affected by him.
B: Not get involved because I wouldn't be able to continue to get along with both of them once I had entered in any way.
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2. If one of my friends and I had had a heated argument in the past and i realized that he was ill at ease around me from that time on, I would:

A. Avoid making things worse by discussing his behavior and just let the whole thing drop.
B. Bring up his behavior and ask him how he felt the argument had affected our relationship.
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3. If a friend began to avoid me and act in an aloof and withdrawn manner, I would:

A. Tell him about his behavior and suggest that he tell me what was on his mind.
B. Follow his lead and keep our contacts brief and aloof since that seems to be what he wants.
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4. If two of my friends and i were talking and one of my friends slipped and brought up a personal problem of mine that involved the other friend, of which (s)he was not yet aware, I would:

A. Change the subject and signal my friend to do the same.
B. Fill my uninformed friend in on what the other friend was talking about and suggest that we go into it later.
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5. If a friend of mine were to tel l me that, in his opinion, I was doing things that made me less effective than I might be in social situations, I would:

A. Ask him to spell out or describe what he has observed and suggest changes I might make.
B. Resent his criticism and let him know why I behave the way I do.
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6. If one of my friends aspired to an office in our organization for which i felt (s)he was unqualified, and if (s)he had been tentatively assigned to that position by the president of our organization, I would:

A. Not mention my misgivings to either my friend or the president and let them handle it in their own way.
B. Tell my friend and the president of my misgivings and then leave the final decision up to them.
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7. If i felt that one of my friends was being unfair to me and his other friends, but none of them had mentioned anything about it, I would:

A. Ask several of these people how they percieved the situation to see if they felt he was being unfair.
B. Not ask the others how they perceived our friend, but wait for them to bring it up with me.
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8. If I were preoccupied with some personal matters and a friend told me that I had become irritated with him and others and that I was jumping on him for unimportant things, I would:

A. Tell him I was preoccupied and would probably be on edge for a while and would prefer not to be bothered.
B. Listen to his complaints but try not to explain my actions to him.
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9. If I had heard some friends discussing and ugly rumor about a friend of mine which I knew could hurt him and he asked me what i knew about it, if anything, I would:

A. Say I didn't know anything about it and tell him no one would believe a rumor like that anyway.
B. Tell him exactly what I had heard, when I had heard it, and from whom I had heard it.
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10. If a friend pointed out the fact that I had a personality conflict with another friend with whom it was important for me to get along, I would:

A. Consider his comments out of line and tell him I didn't want to discuss the matter any further.
B. Talk about it openly with him to find out how my behavior was being affected by this.
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11. If my relationship with a friend has been damaged by repeated arguments on an issue of importantce to us both, I would:

A. Be cautious in my conversations with him so the issue would not come up again to worsen our relationship.
B. Point to the problems the controversy was causing in our relationship and suggest that we discuss it untill we get it resolved.
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12. If in a personal discussion with a friend about his problems and behavior, he suddenly suggested we discuss my problems and behavior as well as his own, I would:

A. Try to keep the discussion away from me by suggesting that other, closer friends often talked to me about such matters.
B. Welcome the opportunity to hear what he felt about me and encourage his comments.
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13. If a friend of mine began to tell me about his hostile feelings and about another friend whom he felt was being unkind to others (and I agreed wholeheartedly), I would:

A. Listen and also express my own feelings to him so that he would know where i stood.
B. Listen, but not express my own negative views and opinions because he might repeat what i said to him in confidence.
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14. If I thought an ugly rumor was being spread about me and suspected that one of my friends had quite likely heard it, I would:

A. Avoid mentioning the issue and leave it to him to tell me about it if he wanted to.
B. Risk putting him on the spot by asking him directly what he knew about the whole thing.
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15. If I had observed a friend in social situations and thought that he was doing a number of things which hurt his relationships, I would:

A. Risk being seen as a busybody and tell him what i had observed and my reactions to it.
B. Leave it up to my friends to tell me or not tell me, letting them change the subject if they wished.
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16. If two friends and I were talking and one of them inadvertently mentioned a personal problem which involved me, but of which I knew nothing, I would:

A. Press them for information about the problem and their opinions about it.
B. Leave it up to my friends to tell me or not tell me, letting them change the subject if they wished.
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17. If a friend seemed to be preoccupied and began to jump on me for seemingly unimportant things, and became irritated with me and others without real cause, I would:

A. Treat him with kid gloves for a while on the assumption that he was having some temporary personal problems which were none of my business.
B. Try to talk to him about it and point out to him how his behavior was affecting people.
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18. If I had begin to dislike certain habits of a friend to the point that it was interfering with my enjoying his company, I would:

A. Say nothing to him directly, but let him know my feelings by ignoring him whenever his annoying habits were obvious.
B. Get my feelings out in the open and clear the air so that we could continue our friendship comfortably and enjoyably.
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19. In discussing social behavior with one of my more sensitive friends, I would:

A. Avoid mentioning his flaws and weaknesses so as not to hurt his feelings.
B. Focus on his flaws and weaknesses so he could improve his interpersonal skills.
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20. If I knew I might be assigned to an important position in our group and my friends' attitudes towards me had become rather negative, I would:

A. Discuss my shortcomings with my friends so i could see where to improve.
B. Try to figure out my own shortcomings by myself so I could improve.
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